Ok I'm trying to post something for the people. And since we've (yeah me and the frog in my pocket and half the blogsphere) have been talking about what SBFs need to do to get a husband (if you want one) I thought I'd share my list of lessons learned (RE-learned) in the '09. I mean really the first thing you need to do before you get a mate period is work on you. I mean a healthy and happy relationship only happens when two healthy and happy people are involved. I know it's a cop-out doing list but that's just where I am in this blog game right now. Y'all have a happy holiday (Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or whatever else people celebrate this time of year). I hope to post one mo' gin...but I makes NO promises EVER. Here's what was going down for me in the life lessons of 2009 (in no particular order).
Happiness is a decision
I am the captain of my own ship
There is very little difference between being the victim and a self-proclaimed "savior"
It's him (her or them), not me. Nothing is "wrong" with me.
I have control of how I let things affect me.
You can't make someone be a better person if they are NOT interested in being a better person.
If you want something you must put effort into it, things don't just happen.
It's bigger than me.
I am worth it. And no one is worth more or less than me.
Its ok to feel whatever I feel…just feel it.
Loving is not the problem, making sure someone is "worth" loving is the solution.
Live life right now, not because what has happened or what you want to happen.