Tuesday, December 30, 2008


Man, it is almost over and well 2008 was quite a year! Four years ago on today one event changed my life forever ….FOR THE BETTER. It was the beginning of the end of my marriage but it was the beginning of the rest of my BEST LIFE EVER. It kicked off a journey that had many valleys and mountain tops and I am prayerful for many more, for the mountain tops would not be as sweet if there were no valleys to make me truly appreciate the view from the top.

I wanted to do some kind of year in review but really there is just so much going on in my life now that I don’t even really have time to look back at this year through blog. Hell I barely have time (or should I say desire) to read all the blogs I want to. The reason started with today’s very special anniversary is because 2009 is my tipping point. In 2009 I will have been newly single longer than I was married. Anyway here is a 2008 OG year in review, the Cliff Notes version.

I spent 8 months of my 2008 in a different part of the country and well I have to say it was one of the best experiences of my life. I learned a lot about life, love, and happiness.

In 2008 I have grown so much. This time last year things were just all over the place I had just got through some tough emotional times, but they made me stronger and looking back with out those times I don’t know if I would have been able to survive Boston if I hadn’t gone through what I went through. The growing pains I went through last year prepared me for so many things I had to deal with in Boston.

(The Object of My Affection)
Well, in 2008 I moved in a new space with TOM A, however at this time last year TOM A and I had only started talking again after 3 months of very limited contact. The ups and downs of TOM A’s life combined with my Boston tour helped us find out what works for us, which is very different than your average couple. We still are learning and growing but I am happy with it. I love him and I will always love him. As we both say we are us and we are not defined by what others THINK we should look like. We are whatever we are.


I don’t really make resolutions. However I do make goals and try to set realistic time tables to get to those goals. Most of the goals I made I think I have either met or on track to meeting. The biggest goal of 2007 was move into my house, which I did. My goal for 2008 was to get my debt down and I did, even paid off my car (even though I’m looking for a new [to me] one. The goals for 2009 is to continue to live, learn, and laugh. Anything outside of that, I’m not even trying to have.

This has been a phenomenal year for me as a professional. I moved out of the very volatile banking industry into a very stable health care. I also made the transition from Analysis to Project Management. The flatness of the organization will also help me reach my goals of PMI certification and my MBA much easier, or at least I hope so.

2008 made me feel even more blessed to have those around me that I call framily (friends who are like fam). I joined a great group of cyber family and found so many blog favorites I was borderline addicted to blogging. Its cool I have it under control. Really the cyber world was largely responsible for me making it through the really lonely times I had in the Bean and keeping me close to my friends and family who were many many miles away from me.

In general 2008 is wrapping up quite nicely for me. I have been insulated from the high gas prices of the summer ( I was in Boston on the MBTA when gas was high), banking crisis (while working in the banking industry- God is SOOOO GOOD), and Hurricane Ike (although I see the rebuilding that is STILL happening months later). I am blessed. I am happy. I am God’s child. I really am so grateful and excited for what 2009 has in store for me. I am on the back end of my thirties. I think the ride to 40 should be LOTS of fun!

What about you? How was your 2008? Excited about 2009? Tell me!!

Be EZ,


Somebodies Friend said...

'08 was the roughest year of my life, but I had some friends that helped me through it also. Thank God for good friends!!!

Hopefully '09 will bring the things I have been working on in '08 together so my friends and I can get in the groove.

All I know is '09 can't get any worse than this last year was!

Glad you're feelin' hopeful in this transition to the New Year!

Keith said...

Hey Glad to see that you're back.
I've already done my end of year posts,but to answer your question..
2008 was an incredible year..We got a Black President...I paid off all of my debt, Found a new hobby,(Blogging) and met so many wonderful cyber friends such as yourself. On a sad note, both my mother and her older sister died this year, leaving a void in my life that still has not been filled. One of my favorite hang out spots..a place I met many of my existing friends, closed it's doors forever and I got diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure and had an operation to unclog an atery.(It was in March, I'm okay..
I think.)

My resolution is to get healthy next year,lose some weight, eat better and get back to swimming and bicycling..things I used to do.

Sister Girl said...

I can dig what you're saying here,as I've never been much of claiming resolutions because to me action speaks louder ! But 2008 has been an incredibly crazy year for me & I'm personally ready to close it out.

Best friend gone Feb '08,favorite aunt gone June '08,Black President elected Nov '08, Eagles BEAT DOWN the Cowboys Dec '08. I'm so ready for the acclaimation of every highly favored blessings that my Lord still has set forth for me.

I've been working on decluttering my house the last 2 weeks & I'm also working at toning down the UNNECESSARY "things" in my life. This year I will change the way I utilize my money effectively,appreciate my life better,and do more to spread love to others.


i.can't.complain. said...


love u, OG


Eb the Celeb said...

i'm extremely excited about 2009 and for '08 to be over...

Happy New Year missy!

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hey there!

Thanks for sharing!

I really need to sit down today and have some quiet reflection on 2008 because a lot has gone down. Whew....if folks ONLY KNEW the half of it!

Have a wonderful New Year's celebration....if that includes being with TOM A or with friends or with God in silence.

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!

"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland."
~ God
(as recorded in the Book of Isaiah 43:18-19)

blackgirlinmaine said...

08 was alright, a lot of downs but a time of amazing personal growth. I finally took action to change some things about myself that really bugged me.

Sounds like you had a great 08, by the way I can relate to blogging becoming almost an addiction. Since moving to New England I have become a tad addicted to the internet in part because of the isolation of being up here. However the new job is changing things since I no longer work at home primarily, which is a plus.

Happy New Year! By the way you left the region at a good time, the snow is thick.

africa entertainment plus sports said...

so happy for you.wish you a wonderful new year.

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

jus wanna say happy nappy new year folk

Pamela said...

Do you really want to know? 2008 was the end of my marriage, the start of a new life on my own with my own place. Maybe back where you were 4 years ago. It also was an acceptance of a mental health diagnosis. Right now I'm feeling melancholy and discombobulated. But life will move on. And goals for 2009 are very limited at the moment.

aulelia said...

OG, I want to get me debt levels down too! It's my key aim for 2008. I have started reading Black Enterprise more and I feel inspired to change my life financially.

Smokie said...

Hey OG - where are you???? We want updates!

Raven said...

Everytime I try to get around to commenting something comes up. Welcome back to the blogging world!!! Here's to a wonderful new year.

BTW...I thought TOM A was his name. LOL!!! Like Tom and last name begins with an A. Too funny!