I was going to write a blog about this article but I decided that it might be a good Friday open thread. So read up and let's get ready to discuss it tomorrow.
Today I'm going to talk about an article in Glamour magazine that was featured on the Today show. The segment was a condensed version of what men want in relationships. They came up with these five things for the segment. Not sure what the article said. The segment listed these as the five things men want.
Men want a woman who will support them when they take risk.
Let him keep secrets
Allow him to keep things from you, like secrets of his friends or details of boys trips.
Let him have his me time (boys night out)
Men still need connection to their pre-relationship life.
Let him know when he needs to just listen or needs to provide feedback.
Men need to know when you need them to fix the problem you are talking about and when you need them to just listen to the problem.
Give him the freedom to be himself.
Don't try to change the things about him that he views as part of who he is.
I'm not a man nor a relationship expert, but all five of these make sense to me. I would say when I was married I didn't do many of these or at least not all at once or for any sustained period of time. Viewing this list it is everything I do with TOM A.
However I am older now and I know me now and I am more secure. As a younger woman I wasn't secure enough in myself to understand those things. Or maybe it was my sheltered southern upbringing that made me think marriage or relationships could only be one way. I don't know. I just found the list interesting and wanted to know what you guys thought. Is this a good list? What do you women think? Is this how you operate in your relationships?
Tell me I really want to know, especially from people like Keith and Raven who are married and seem to have a pleasant experience under their belts!