So right now I am reading Tim Gunn’s Guide to Style. Yes READING not watching. I don’t have cable, however I may break down and get it soon, and thus I am Bravo and HGTV-less in Boston. I just can’t see myself paying for cable here and home and I don’t want to turn of cable at home because well…I’m lazy. And I like to have cable when I come home, plus shutting down some things at home seems like me shutting down home. I am thinking of getting the most basic of basic cable at home and then maybe then I won’t feel wasteful for having cable here. TV is the devil! I just am trying to see how long I could make it with out TV stations dedicated to my specific interests.
Anyway I’ve been reading Tim’s book and I am happy to say I have already done a lot of the stuff he is talking about, I have my own personal style, sometimes too much of it. SO I do need to clean out the closets. I have spent a few painstaking years learning my personal style and the things that look good, great and fabulous on my body type. If I were to sum up my personal style I’d say it is highly feminine. I am typically drawn to sweaters, sweater sets, full skirts, A-line skirts, dresses (mostly of the wrap variety but not always), A-line dresses, and a few 1950’s Donna Reid full skirt dresses too. I have an occasional pencil skirt and a couple of other things that work for my shape. Its taking me a long time to get it right, but I think for the most part my choice and style go well with whom I am and my age and the personality I want to project. The guy in the sandwhich line once told me I was always dressed nice! I happily accepted that compliment because yes I do think about what I am going to wear and since I am lazy the thought I have is about 10 minutes before I put it on my body, but that is the best part about knowing my style, I can’t tell you when I have spent more than 10-15 minutes deciding what to wear and I can’t tell you when the last time was that I spent changing clothes countless times looking for something that looked good on me. I did change my skirt once because the extra 5 lbs on my azz I hadn’t noticed made it a little French maidish!
The older I get the more I become aware of who I am and what works best on me and for me. I realize that I have one of those bodies that can cheapen up even the most demure outfits so coming to terms with the fact that I can’t wear certain things took me a minute. I can put on a dress made for a church marm and turn it into Moni does Minneapolis. I don’t wear shorts because they make me feel like a walking porn star. Although I prefer clothes that are closer to my body, and maybe too close to my body for a few of the church marms I pass. Its cool though I like it and most of the time so does the rest of the world.
I prefer dresses and skirts because no matter my size, my waist is always significantly smaller than the rest of me. Nothing showcases my small waist more than a nice full (no pleats) skirt and a sweater set. Think Leave it o Beaver! I have come to realize that if I really want a pair of adult work pants, I will have to take them to the tailor for that very reason and why I am not Buffy the Body I do require my waist to be taken in a bit, the pants I have to buy the fit the rest of me as opposed to the size my waist can take is sometimes more than what a belt can handle, but things like being able to have someone fit your clothes etc are things that come with getting older and learning what can work off the rack and what can’t. I wish I would get in the habit of doing it more regularly, but I only go in the most extreme circumstances, which always results in a side-eyed stance from my BFF telling me you really should go to the tailor your body begs of it. I have found jeans that are made to fit me, I use to hate wearing jeans in my twenties and would only wear jeans in a certain size, hence when I was bigger than that I never wore them, however in my thirties the jean has become my best friend. I once had a suitor who was disappointed I wasn’t clad in jeans on our date. *lol*
Anyway this post was really about posture and why I just don’t get bad posture. How does one become comfortable holding bad posture? I mean this world is full of people with horrible posture. I have always been proud of being tall; therefore I have never dealt with the tall girl slump. I don’t know but slumping or shrinking in my skin just wasn’t allowed nor do I remember ever thinking it was an option, I’m sure it’s the Aries in me. I think how one holds his/her carriage definitely determines many things in life. It affects how people treat you, if you are seen, and definitely how you look in your clothes whether they are the wrong or right choice. I mean I just think standing up straight, shoulders a part (not back), and pelvis tucked delivers confidence. Just as standing head held to high and shoulders too far back delivers perhaps a bit of haughtiness as if you want to bang your chest to let others know you think yourself better than them. There is a difference, I have learned, between good posture that says I’m confident in who I am and good posture that says I am confident I am better than you. I wish I could show you, you know like a YouTube video or something.
It’s easier to see the difference between those who lack confidence and the confident than it is to see it between those who are overly confident to the point of arrogance and the confident. Am I crazy?
You see, humans are animals and body language is the number one thing we use when sizing up prey, predators, and all those in between. It’s the reason some kids get picked on and others don’t (sure there are other reasons too). I think sometimes people can even tell when confidence is feigned and not natural but forced.
To me confidence when it is natural and real is something that just rest down to your bones. I can even tell when people who are normally confident have their confidence shaken. I’m an observer of people its why I like the bus, train, and living in the city and all that jazz, you get to watch all kinds all walks of folks move through life. You also get to make up wildly insane lives for these people with your over active imagination. And since I’m a people person I get to interact with those people and see if my assumptions were right or wrong.
I’m a good reader of people THESE DAYS, but not always. I have tweaked my people reading skills over time, some people are really good at pretending or perhaps it’s that they have been pretending so long they now believe the bullshyt they are selling. Who knows, I do know watching people and who they are will always remain one of my favorite past times. Do you think there are differences in how the naturally confident and the naturally arrogant carry him/herself? Can you spot someone who is trying to fake it until he or she makes it? Or am I crazy? Do you know what your personal style is? Man I am all up in the business today! ALL UP IN IT!